Why “I Can’t” Is Usually a Lie #mentalhealth #therapy #selfimprovement #motivation #habits

Why do we say “I can’t” when we actually mean “I won’t”? In this video, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Kyler Shumway breaks down one of the most useful reframes in therapy: the difference between can’t, won’t, and will.

If you’ve ever told yourself “I can’t stop scrolling,” “I can’t stick to a workout routine,” or “I can’t set a boundary,” this video is for you. Most of what we call “can’t” is actually “won’t,” meaning it’s possible, just uncomfortable. Learning that difference is a core tool in self-discipline, motivation, and breaking bad habits.

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